Dewy-Eyed Brides And The Reality Of Coconut Balls

coconut_balls_7_mfbShower season is upon us.  I don’t mean the weather, although that is also true, I mean bridal shower season.

Bright, dewy-eyed brides with their dreams of the perfect husband, the perfect wedding, the perfect home.  Dreams of a perfect future which may or may not include 2.5 perfect kids and a beautifully perfect 4 bedroom, 3 bath home in the suburbs.

coconut_balls_collageEvery bridal shower showcases this perfect, new love with paper hearts strewn across the room, gaggles of female friends and family members, and the lovely bride-to-be smiling and giddy with happiness.  She will thank you for your thoughtfulness of giving her the perfect gift that she will use to create a perfect home for her perfect husband and future family. She will receive every kitchen gadget known to humanity, some of which she will use, some she will re-gift, and some she’ll sell in a yard sale twenty years down the road, still inside its original box.

coconut_balls_5_mfbThe reality is, that it’s not perfect.  Eventually you find out that your husband leaves his socks all over the house, piles the dirty dishes next to the dishwasher instead of inside it, and sometimes he smells.  Your kids are mouthy, they leave everything all over the house, and they smell funny too.  Your fantasy 4 bedroom, 3 bath home needs major renovations and you don’t have the time or the energy to do it between soccer practice, ballet lessons, grocery shopping, and working 40 hours a week.

Do I want to squash her perfect dreams? Nope.

Do I want to tell her to get her head out of the sand? Nope.

So I’ll go to her bridal shower and sip on a mimosa, eat tiny, little finger sandwiches, and pretend I didn’t put five perfect coconut balls in my purse before I go home, back to reality, where I will hide out in the bathroom and eat them before someone bangs on the bathroom door and ruins my perfect peace.


Coconut Balls

1 hour, 30 minutes

Yield: approximately 48 balls

These little balls of goodness will freeze well.


  • 6 cups coconut, shredded, flaked, or dessicated (or a combination of all three)
  • 1 cup icing (powdered/confectioners) sugar
  • 1 can (14 oz / 300 ml) sweetened condensed milk
  • 1/2 cup coconut oil, melted
  • 2 cups milk chocolate melting wafers or finely chopped bars/squares (not chocolate chips)


In a large bowl, combine coconut, icing sugar, sweetened condensed milk, and melted coconut oil. Mix well. Use a 1 oz ice cream style scoop to scoop balls on parchment paper. (You can also use your hands to form balls that are around 1″ big.) Place balls in the freezer for an hour or two until hardened.

In the top of a double boiler, melt the milk chocolate. (See instructions for tempering chocolate here.) Dip each frozen coconut ball into the melted chocolate and shake off excess chocolate. Place on a parchment lined baking sheet and sprinkle with extra coconut.


Adapted from How Sweet Eats

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  1. pamela says:

    I love coconuts. I would like to make this for my son wedding and put then is boxes as a thank you gift. Do i have to keep them in the fridge. or how long can this treat stay out for.

    • My Friend's Bakery says:

      If you are use melting chocolate (Baker’s chocolate or chocolate melting wafers) you do not need to keep them in the fridge. It is only when you use a chocolate with a higher fat content (like chocolate chips) that you would need to refrigerate to keep it firm.

  2. April Hatmaker says:

    Ty for your candor of truth, I found you hilarious, refreshing here and shortbread one!!! Ty for the recipes especially this one… My mom used to make these and I didn’t have the recipe. now I do:) so excited to do these for my Christmas Eve party! Merry Christmas!!!!

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